No One is Coming to Save You: The Truth About Self-Abandonment

There’s a moment in healing when we realize:
No one is coming to save us.
Not our partner, not a parent, not the next therapist, not a better job.

That realization can feel heavy.
But it’s also where our power lives.

Self-abandonment looks like:

• Saying yes when you mean no.

• Ignoring your own needs to keep peace.

• Looking outside yourself for validation.

• Repeating painful patterns because they feel familiar.

If any of this resonates, you’re not alone. Most of us weren’t taught how to stay with ourselves through discomfort. Many of us learned survival meant disconnecting from our body, from our truth, from our voice.

But here’s the truth:
You can stop abandoning yourself.
You can build safety inside. You can parent yourself with love. You can make choices that align with who you are becoming, not who you were forced to be.

Try asking yourself:

• What part of me am I ignoring right now?

• What am I pretending not to know?

• Where do I feel unseen in my own life?

This work isn’t easy. It’s not linear. But every small moment you choose yourself, even if it’s just making a nourishing meal or saying no, you’re changing the pattern.

And that’s where the healing begins.

You are not too much. You are not too late. You are not alone.